Letters to the Editor

Stay-at-home mothers have solid and lengthy resumés

During a neighborhood social, a group of 60- to 75-year-olds were busily chatting, getting to know each other. The guys, chatting about their work history, some still working, others retired. The women were writers, artists, volunteers, yet all still heavily involved in their role of "mom."

I was aghast when I overheard the answer from a 70-year-old man when asked if his wife was retired: "No, she never worked."

My head began to spin, my mind started racing. Trust me, "She never worked" triggered this letter.

Overhearing that remark, one woman stepped forward, "Hmmm, excuse me, I think I know a little bit about this, being a stay-at-home mom for my four children for 18 years, plus being a volunteer."

Not surprising, most women at the party had careers early in their marriage yet later chose to become stay-at-home moms. These women rated tops in organizational skills. Their work history, long, varied, yet totally crucial to the survival of others, mainly their children and husbands.

Moms and wives all recognize our resumes are in harmony with these similar jobs: personal shopper (every spring, summer and fall); chef (either breakfast, lunch or dinner, 365 days a year); maid (once a week, 52 days a year, bed linens and laundry); caregiver (365 days a year for 18 years); babysitter (24 hours a day), volunteer (five hours a week).

You get the idea! Lest we forget, our resume also includes teacher, event coordinator, interior designer, taxi driver, nurse, wife (40 years) ... lover.

An "aha" moment. I just learned California's Gov. Jerry Brown's wife is serving as his "top aide" (albeit on an unpaid basis). Hmmm, how could my 40-year full time job as my husband's "top aide" escape my resume?

Barbara Hansen

Lakewood Ranch