We are about to have our first child, and the thought of being a parent has me scared stiff. I want to be a good father to him, but I don’t have any idea what to do. My own father left when I was 3, and I never had any example to follow. Any suggestions? — Z.N.
Tomorrow, our nation celebrates Father’s Day, a special time when we honor our fathers and the influence they’ve had in our lives. Even if they were absent or imperfect, they still gave us life, and we should thank God for them.
And I hope you’ll take time this Father’s Day to thank God for the privilege He is giving you of being a father.
Yes, you may feel inadequate and scared. But God is still entrusting this child into your hands — because He believes you’ll be able to rise to the challenge (with His help).
See your son as a gift from God, and ask Him to help you be the best father you can be. The Bible says, “Sons are a heritage from the Lord, children a reward from him” (Psalm 127:3).
How can you be a good father?
First, love your son — and let him know you love him. Just as our heavenly Father repeatedly shows us His love, so we earthly fathers repeatedly need to show our children our love. That doesn’t mean we don’t correct them when they do wrong — but even then, our goal is to help them do what is right, because we love them.
Then teach your son about God as he grows, and about Christ’s love for him. Most of all, make Christ the foundation of your life and your home. If you do, your son will gain what you didn’t have: an example to follow when he, too, becomes a father.
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