Baby who died too soon is safely in God’s arms forever

We’re brokenhearted, because the baby we’d looked forward to having for years died after only 10 days of life. I suppose we have lots of questions about why God let this happen, but my main question is this: Is our baby in heaven? Or can we really know? — Mrs. J.McD.

Yes, you can be assured that your baby is now in heaven, safely beyond the sickness and pain of this world.

Your grief is real, and it won’t go away overnight — but take comfort in the fact that this little child is now in God’s presence forever.

Whenever I’m asked a question like this, I think immediately of King David in the Old Testament. God described him in the Bible as “a man after my own heart” (Acts 13:22), and he ruled over Israel with great wisdom and courage. But as the years passed, David drifted away from God, and on one occasion he committed adultery with another man’s wife, named Bathsheba. She became pregnant, and in time she gave birth to a son.

But almost immediately the child became very sick, and seven days later he was dead.

During those seven days, David pleaded with God, asking Him to spare the child’s life — but to no avail. David grieved for the child — but at the same time, he was confident that after his own death they would be reunited: “Can I bring him back again? I will go to him, but he will not return to me” (2 Samuel 12:23).

Thank God for His love — both for you and for this child. Thank God most of all for the hope we have of heaven because of Christ’s death and resurrection for us. Is your hope in Him?

I honestly thought I’d given my life to Jesus, but sometimes my temper boils over like it used to, and I guess I’m not saved after all. How can I get over this and really be free from sin so I know I’ll go to heaven when I die? — D.W.

The most important thing I can tell you is that when you turned to Jesus Christ and gave your life to Him, you became His child forever. Nothing will ever change that relationship — nothing.

The Bible says, “How great is the love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are!” (1 John 3:1).

You see, when Jesus Christ died on the cross, all your sins were placed on Him. He was without sin, for He was the perfect Son of God. But on the cross He willingly took upon Himself your sins and mine, and He endured the judgment that you and I deserve.

When we trust Him as our Lord and Savior, God forgives our sins — fully and freely — and adopts us into His family forever.

If you sincerely gave your life to Christ, this has happened to you. Even if you sin, you still are God’s child.

Why, then, do you still struggle with sin? The reason is because your old sinful nature still lives within you. It tries to rule your life and make you live like you did before you committed your life to Christ.

But God also lives within you by His Spirit, and He wants to help you overcome your sins.

When you sin, ask God’s forgiveness right away. Then ask Him to help you take steps to avoid it in the future. Most of all, learn to walk with Christ every day, committing every situation to Him in prayer and walking in obedience to His Word, the Bible.

The Rev. Billy Graham, whose column appears in Faith & Values every Saturday, can be contacted at “My Answer,” c/o Billy Graham, Billy Graham Evangelistic Association, 1 Billy Graham Parkway, Charlotte, N.C., 28201 or