I was just informed that my daughter Elisa, a seventh-grader at Manatee School For the Arts, would be selecting her electives during school and not bringing home any paperwork on what is being offered in order to discuss it with her parents.
I find three issues with this process:
First, my 13-year-old doesn't make decisions for herself; she has two parents at home that will make choices for her until she is 18 years of age and a legal adult.
Second, we as parents pay fees for electives. They aren't free. How is the school allowing my child to make any kind of financial decisions (again without discussing it with her two parents at home)?
She is a child. We do not discuss our finances with her so she has no idea what we can and cannot afford.
Third, while I understand the school wanting to give children independence, who is the school or anyone to try and take control away from a parent!
Our society is racked with teenage pregnancy and children doing whatever they want because they're undermining a parent's authority.
My husband and I make choices for our children until they are old enough and mentally equipped to make good choices for themselves.
I asked for an elective sheet to be sent home so we can discuss what is within our budget and what we can handle as far as after-school commitment time, since she and her two sisters have activities after school during the week and weekends.
I received a response from an assistant principal that basically said the form will be filled out at school and she can bring you a copy.
This is almost an exact wording of what I sent the school.