I was impressed with the Herald article on suicide, and thoughts related to the most difficult situation that ends in loss for those involved. With my experiences, I would like to add my findings with suicide.
First and foremost, one must talk about this phenomena with the acknowledgement that we do not know all about suicide because no one has come back to collaborate why they did what they did.
However, what evidence we have gained is about suicidal thoughts usually with the individual who is depressed.
Most of the suicidal patients that I have seen are usually bright and quite sensitive. Two phenomenal features are present: one being anger and hostility toward a family member, or overwhelming hostility from formidable times, much of which is unconscious and breaks through over an incident.
This, in turn is recalled by looking in a mirror or catching themselves doing the same thing that a mother or father did. When asked about this, a patient was wishing to kill the person they would be angry with inside themselves, but never to kill their own sensitive and compassionate self.
Secondly, they have the feeling that no one is there for them. I recently saw a married man with two daughters, but that was not enough. Another patient was convinced it was always that way, and so for two months I saw him six days a week.
This feeling that no one was there for him is unconscious and probably stems for his first six months of life. Usually, a mother is there for a child during this time, but in some cases, the "let them cry it out" philosophy leaves the child unconscientiously abandoned.
So, in conclusion, I have never seen two people alike. Therefore, their fancies and wishes are never the same.
Dr. Norman Ellman