In 2011 my father died at the age of 84. Later that same year my son was shot and killed. He was 35.
My dad was amazing. Everything good about me comes from him. Courage, compassion, forgiveness, respect for life, all taught with his unwavering love for 58 years.
My son was an awesome dad to his son for three years. I was fortunate to share in his devotion, tender nurturing and absolute commitment to parenting.
I saw his baby grow into a toddler full of joy and the confidence that comes from security of being well loved.
I share this because I know that for some, Father's Day is not the Hallmark card happy time it should be.
Being a good father is the greatest gift a father can give his children. It is a lifetime achievement for the few or many years you have. Your influence goes from your child to their friends, their own families, the community and our country.
A how-to manual? There isn't one! There's just you, and the deepest bond possible between two hearts.
It's never too late to be that dad, or strive to do better. Get involved, ask questions, listen well, just do the best you can with what you have.
Most of all, know that your unwavering love will result in many happy father's days to come.